The Pick-Up Diary

It’s a fact: Most single men are unhappy. But there are also happy guys out there – those who meet women often and often have sex with different women. And every one can become such a guy, because fortunately the ability to attract women doesn’t depend on your looks, job, income or background.

So, what are the secrets those lucky guys know about? How can you attract more women?

Secret #1: Be social.

The idea behind it is that the more social you are, the more people you meet. The more people you meet, the higher the chance you meet women and will have sex with them. Spending all day in the gym may improve your looks, but it won’t get you more women. Besides your social skills will get better every time you communicate with different people and you will do better next time you meet a beautiful girl. More important, one of the things women look for in a man is social status. If you are a person who talks with many different people (girls and guys) on parties and so on, your social status is high and women will automatically feel attracted to you. If you stand alone in a corner with a beer in your hand the whole evening and watch all the other people having fun, your social status is as low as it can be. So, go out regularly and interact with different people. Get to know people. Try to make a habit of it. If you don’t know what to say, learn some openers like “Hi guys! I have a quick question for you – who lies more, men or women?” aso. Remember, nothing impresses a woman more than social status, the fact that other people (not only girls) like you, that you are popular (= social proof). Smile and laugh a lot, it will have a positive effect on the people you’re talking to and it demonstrates confidence.

Secret #2: Be the Alpha Guy.

Women love dominant guys. Actually, dominance and self-confidence are the top qualities women look for in a man. And as about 90 % of the success of your approach depends on your body language, your tone and timing, you have to master those areas first. Only a strong and coherent body language can demonstrate confidence. Women are attracted to confidence as it indicates a high status. The alpha guy is a type of man who can demonstrate that he is successful and has women in his life. He is not needy like the nice guys women only rip off. The alpha guy always sets the tone, never looks for approval and always has a plan where to go and what to do. He never asks the woman “What would you like to do?” Don’t be fooled, most women don’t want a man who’s asking them all the time on their wishes. They want a strong man who knows what he wants, tells them want they need – a leader who will take them for a ride. The alpha guy always has his own opinion on everything and never shows he’s jealous.

Secret #3: Be interesting.

To quote the famous pickup artist Mystery: “In order to get a woman interested in you, you have to be interesting.” Knowing interesting facts makes you interesting. But it’s not enough, you have to develop a unique personality, your own point of view on anything. The reason for that is, it makes you stand out from the last 10 or even 100 guys the girl you’re talking to hooked up with. Being interesting also means that you can demonstrate (a special) value – something not everyone can do. This doesn’t mean that you have to play a greasy song on the guitar (but do so if you can). Read up on palm reading, dream interpretation or psycho tests and use it on your next date. Women love all kinds of tests and actually, you are interesting if you know about that stuff.

Pick-Up Starts at 4:23!

P.S. If you like day game, this is a must: How to Pick Up a Girl.

Tweet

“There are things that I can’t tell people face-to-face, whether they’re just friends of mine, or people I love who are close to my life, yet for some reason I’m not afraid to write about them, even though I know they’ll see ‘em.

Even the stuff in The Game, I’ve never told people because I was worried they would judge me. The stuff in Rules Of The Game, in that first story about that really, really old woman. My friends would have just ripped… it would have been publicly humiliating. But I guess I feel if I can write it I can really explain it fully, all the dimensions to it and I can make sure it’s said right, and comes out right. That way I can say it the best way I can possibly say it.” Neil Strauss

Tweet

P.S. If you have no clue what “The Game” is, check it out on amazon:

How to Pick Up a Girl

Tweet

If you want to meet new girls, you need to know where to go. Most guys instantly think of clubs and bars. But actually, these places are not that great to meet girls.

Here’s the reason: In clubs girls get hit on all the time (with stuff like “Can I buy you a drink?” or “Are you often here?”) as most guys think it’s the only place where it’s okay to approach girls (and mostly it’s also the only place they have the guts to do it).

So, by and by the girls get pissed off and start acting bitchy in those places (the so-called “bitch shield” is an automatic mechanism to protect yourself from all the horny guys).

Besides, most clubs are too noisy, overcrowded and the cool chill-out places where you can build comfort or make out with a girl are more often than not taken.

Of course, there are also cafés, but if you’re searching for places where women are not attuned to be approached, check out the my list of the Top 5 Places where women behave naturally:

1) Bookstore. It’s a fact: Most customers here are women. Find a nice girl and get a book recommendation.

2) Grocery. Fruit and veg section. Women are into balanced diet. Start a conversation.

3) Drugstore. Same story as in #1 here. Small downside: Most women are in a hurry.

4) Clothing store. Women’s section. Mindframe: You’re looking for a present for a friend. Just ask, women love all kind of fashion questions.

5) Perfumery. Many women here, unfortunately also some overly committed shop assistants.

The cool thing about these places: Women act much more naturally here as only few guys approach them at these places.

P.S. The nail salon, the jewel store and the library are also places where women are among each other. For more places check out Paul Janka’s Attraction Formula (page 15-18) and Savoy’s Magic Bullets (Chapter 13) – both outstanding books that I highly recommend.