The Pick-Up Diary

A huge mistake that a lot of guys make is trying to appeal to the girl at any cost. This is also called “being needy”. And that’s one of the things that turns women off instantly.

So, instead of trying to do everything just to impress her, try to tease her a bit. This way you show her that you aren’t “afraid” of beatiful girls, that dealing with such women isn’t new to you. Teasing is all about being playful. At the same time you always need to come out on top in a conversation to demonstrate that you’re the leader, the strong guy who is confident no matter what she says.

Teasing is about being cocky and funny. It’s about being brash and playful at the same time. It’s also about being creative: your best tools here are cold reading and purposeful misunderstanding.

The basic principle is always the same: push and pull (or punishment and reward). That means that you always keep the tension in the conversation. For example tell her that you like her. Then moments later pretend you’re upset by something that she did.

“Negs” (negative comments on her looks or behavior) are suitable for teasing, but even more effective at the beginning of a conversation as this way – to quote the Worlds Greatest Pickup Artist Mystery – “you disqualify yourself from being a potential suitor“.

So, without further chitchat, here are the Top Ten Lines to Tease a Girl:

1) I like your hair color… Is it real?
2) I love your smile…But I’m looking for a girl with personality.
3) I like your voice…But not what you’re saying.
4) You seem so smart. How do you manage to hide your true self?
5) You’re beautiful. But beauty is so common. What is it that you have except your looks?
6) What’s the craziest thing you’re ever done? That’s great. You and my grandma would really get along.
7) You know why you and me would never get along? We are too similar!
8 ) You are pretty…But not my type.
9) Hey, what’s your favorite song? What? That’s it. I’m going home.
10) Are you dancing or do you need to go to the toilet?

As you perform – yes, its not only about the content, but your presentation – those lines, remember that your tone is everything. Stay playful and don’t take her answers seriously. You will find a great chapter called “Disinterest” with lots of NEGs etc. in his newest e-Book Revelation (Chapter 6, p. 105-125).

P.S. Always keep in mind: The goal isn’t to insult her, but to show her that beautiful women are not a big deal to you (that’s why you answer in a playful way). Every “critical” statement should be made in a playful tone and a smile.

A lot of guys who struggle with girls are highly motivated to improve themselves. But in order to improve yourself, you need to know what to improve. And often people simply don’t know what they are doing wrong, they haven’t identified their “sticking point”:

Maybe you don’t know how to open, maybe you don’t know how to create attraction, maybe you always skip the comfort building-phase. Or maybe you can’t bring yourself to speak to strangers, have some nervous ticks speaking with women, play the funny guy to smooth over your insecurity or your mind goes blank facing a beautiful girl. Maybe you don’t care about grooming and looks. Maybe you endlessly search for the right moment to kiss the girl or don’t use touching (kino) at all and always end up in the friends zone – this list is endless.

So, first you have to identify your problem, your sticking point with women. Here is what you can do to find out where your problem with girls might be:

1) Think about the past situations with women and what went wrong. Try to see the whole situation from her perspective – would you like this guy and would you think this guy has got girls in his life? If the answer is “no” – why? Compare yourself with successful guys – what do they do and you don’t?

2) Ask your friends and try to get an honest answer on how they see you interacting with women. Let them speak, don’t interrupt and don’t search for any excuses. Accept what they say – in most cases they see the right picture and you are the one who doesn’t want to accept the reality. Most guys don’t get over this point because admitting a weakness normally lowers your self-esteem. And nobody likes that. Hence most of the guys never really get better with women. Be the difference: Accept that you have to change things and start working on it.

3) Tape yourself on video to see how other people perceive you. It really gives you a reality check. Practice as long as you finally like “this” guy on the tape and your results with girls will skyrocket as you will become much more self-confident. And self-confidence is what girls are really looking for in a guy as it demonstrates a high status.

4) Get more information on attraction and psychology (internet, book store). You have to be aware of the basic principles of human interaction. But don’t overdo it. You don’t need all the books, two or three are enough at the beginning. The information you get from them is only there to know why something works. But it’s absolutely worthless if YOU don’t use it in the real life. You only get better if you go out and approach girls. The lack of experience with girls is the number one reason why guys don’t get the right results with girls. Here’s how you get the most out of the information you receive: break it apart and try one thing after another. If you read something new, go out and try it (and only it) until you get the right results. It’s not that easy in praxis, but it’s the most effective way to get better – and this is your goal, isn’t it?