The Pick-Up Diary

As we all know, the first impression has a lot to do with the way you dress. To quote Michael Jordan’s father, “If you dress like a bum, then they’re gonna treat you like a bum. If you dress like a hoodlum, they’re going to treat you like a hoodlum…” (Michael Jordan, Driven from Within).

You get the idea – if you’re dressed like a computer programmer, they… You know the rest. So what you need to do is to improve the way you dress.

Of course, looks are NOT the most important part of attracting girls, but they are important. The way your are dressed will have an effect on the way people assess you – even unconscious. People judge by the looks and you have only seconds to demonstrate that you are a man of style. Don’t mess it up with boring sweaters and dirty sneakers.

You don’t have to dress like a gigolo either. If you look like a software engineer, try to loosen your clothes a little bit – add some color to it. Get rid of plaid and Hawaiian shirts. Look for some interesting necklaces, rings or wristlets (but try to avoid knickknack).

Why? Because every woman wants to know what they stand for. Such accessories make your interesting – they even allow a woman to contact you. And women are very curious as for glitter.

Good shoes are important as women pay attention to what kind of shoes guys wear. Again, try to avoid sneakers – for example you can buy a pair of nice, black italian shoes. They are worth it.

You need a nice jacket, not a multi-color-baseball-jacket. It doesn’t have to be a leather jacket – although it will draw a much more attention. A simple, classy coat can make a hell of impression. It’s not about buying the most expensive stuff and looking or looking like a fashion junkie. It’s about adding class to the way you dress. Shops like Zara or even H&M will do it completely.

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My Name is Steve Wells and this is my first post in this brand-new blog. As a freelance journalist I have written more than 30 articles dealing with the problem how to get better with women (which are free and can be found on ezinearticles.com). The idea behind this blog is to share my thoughts on this subject on a regular, daily basis.

By now, nearly everyone seems to know the book called “The Game” by Neil Strauss. If you’re not everyone, here’s a summary what this book is about. Since this book is what got me into the pickup community, I would like to start this blog with an excerpt from “The Game”:

“The moment I started reading, my life changed. More than any other book or document—be it the Bible, Crime and Punishment, or The Joy of Cooking—the layguide opened my eyes. And not necessarily because of the information in it, but because of the path it sent me hurtling down. When I look back on my teenage years, I have one major regret, and it has nothing to do with not studying hard enough, not being nice to my mother, or crashing my father’s car into a public bus. It is simply that I didn’t fool around with enough girls. I am a deep man—I reread James Joyce’s Ulysses every three years for fun. I consider myself reasonably intuitive. I am at the core a good person, and I try to avoid hurting others. But I can’t seem to evolve to the next state of being because I spend far too much time thinking about women…”

– Neil Strauss, The Game, 2005, p. 9

In my opinion, the last sentence is crucial. A lot of guys that find themselves in the pickup community are pretty smart guys – guys that think a lot. Probably you are one of them. But as we all know thinking is only one side of the coin. The other one? Taking action! And this is where most of the guys fail. Or, actually, they don’t. Because they don’t even try! The reason for this is quite obvious: It’s much easier to read all the stuff, watch all the DVDs that make you feel great and lull you – instead of going out and learning in real life. You don’t have to deal with rejection, with “shit tests”, with competitors – you don’t have to deal with life! Because that’s what life is about. Those are problems that you have to be able to solve if you want to make it in life. And let’s be real – it’s not nuclear science – you can solve these problems. And even have fun doing so. So, instead of reading all the pickup material you can get, I – as many before – recommend to go out and practice. Because it’s the most effective way to solve the problem called “I’m simply not good with girls”.

To close this post, some advice from the master himself:

Neil Strauss on things you need to convey to attract women

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